I cried for these families as I read their blogs, imagine the joy of newly adopted kids in your family when your spouse dies suddenly.
Keep these families in your prayers as the children come to terms with the loss of their parent and as the spouse grieves the death of her loved one.
http://lazydranch8.blogspot.com
and
http://cold-water-news.blogspot.com
Saturday, 16 February 2008
Monday, 11 February 2008
where things stand at the mo
I guess that for now I am looking at doing a homestudy (which can cost anywhere between £3000 - £6000) plus I have to have a permament residence, which I dont. Even if I did have all those things there is no saying whether they would qualify me as a 'suitable' adoptive parent. How can I be expected to have a permanent residence and a job in the uk anyway if I am going to live in Uganda for 3 years?
Apparantly the homestudy is valid for 2 years, however the adoption in Uganda will take 3 years to finalise.
No-one is able to tell me whether I can bring Nathanial back to the UK on legal guardianship and finalise adoption in the UK. I don't mind having to live in Uganda for 3 years as long as I can come home on holiday preferably with my child. Can I bring Nathanial back to the UK as a holiday on legal guardianship? No-one knows.
If I leave the UK in July complete the adoption in 3 years and try to bring Nathanial back to the UK will I have put myself in an illegal position by not first going through the dfes? But in order to not put myself in an illegal position I would have to do a homestudy.
I could declare myself no longer habitually resident in the UK, but obviously that would mean seeking legal advice, would it also mean that I can no longer live in the UK?
NO-ONE SAID THIS WAS GOING TO BE EASY!!!
Apparantly the homestudy is valid for 2 years, however the adoption in Uganda will take 3 years to finalise.
No-one is able to tell me whether I can bring Nathanial back to the UK on legal guardianship and finalise adoption in the UK. I don't mind having to live in Uganda for 3 years as long as I can come home on holiday preferably with my child. Can I bring Nathanial back to the UK as a holiday on legal guardianship? No-one knows.
If I leave the UK in July complete the adoption in 3 years and try to bring Nathanial back to the UK will I have put myself in an illegal position by not first going through the dfes? But in order to not put myself in an illegal position I would have to do a homestudy.
I could declare myself no longer habitually resident in the UK, but obviously that would mean seeking legal advice, would it also mean that I can no longer live in the UK?
NO-ONE SAID THIS WAS GOING TO BE EASY!!!
I've not been in this process very long at all, I know people who have been waiting 2 years to bring their kids home, but I am struggling already.
I was hoping that by moving to Uganda to live things would be easier. I mean if I had to wait 2 years to get Nathanial he would be 4 or nearly 5 by that time - and that's an awful lot to miss out on! Whereas if I go and live in Uganda Nathanial will be able to come and live with me straight away.
So far no-one has been able to help me at all. Social services where I live have reffered me to another countys services because they don't deal with international adotions, so I wrote to them asking about homestudies, turns out that they dont do it for those living outside of their county - so I guess no one knows! I've tried talking to people in immigration they dont know, seems like my only option is to talk to an intercountry adoption specialist - who are by no means cheap! And obviously I dont qualify for legal aid - I guess if I had fifty million kids all with different dads - sat on my arse all day, smoked, drank, lived off benefits, lived in a council house, then yes - obviously I would get legal aid. Since, I've been back I've started to realise how unfair the system really is, the government is helping those (I'm being very general here, and I know that this isn't always the case) that aren't willing to help themselves. Ok, fair enough give them money - but give it to people who are trying to get out of the situation they are in. It's the people who earn enough money to survive on that don't get the help they need when they need it. To qualify for legal aid you have to be on some kind of benefit, but if a person who earns a minimum salary and isnt elligible for benfits, paying for a lawyer will then put them in debt. If you want a credit card or a loan you have to have debts in order to prove that you have previously paid owed money back.
What about the young girls in our society who have the mentality that having kids young is easy way to money. Well, I have to say that they aren't wrong - you do get a lot of money of you're under 16 or even under 18 - you get loads of benefits. Morally its very wrong - but the government are encouraging this kind of behaviour.
Anyway, I think thats enough ranting and raving from me!
I was hoping that by moving to Uganda to live things would be easier. I mean if I had to wait 2 years to get Nathanial he would be 4 or nearly 5 by that time - and that's an awful lot to miss out on! Whereas if I go and live in Uganda Nathanial will be able to come and live with me straight away.
So far no-one has been able to help me at all. Social services where I live have reffered me to another countys services because they don't deal with international adotions, so I wrote to them asking about homestudies, turns out that they dont do it for those living outside of their county - so I guess no one knows! I've tried talking to people in immigration they dont know, seems like my only option is to talk to an intercountry adoption specialist - who are by no means cheap! And obviously I dont qualify for legal aid - I guess if I had fifty million kids all with different dads - sat on my arse all day, smoked, drank, lived off benefits, lived in a council house, then yes - obviously I would get legal aid. Since, I've been back I've started to realise how unfair the system really is, the government is helping those (I'm being very general here, and I know that this isn't always the case) that aren't willing to help themselves. Ok, fair enough give them money - but give it to people who are trying to get out of the situation they are in. It's the people who earn enough money to survive on that don't get the help they need when they need it. To qualify for legal aid you have to be on some kind of benefit, but if a person who earns a minimum salary and isnt elligible for benfits, paying for a lawyer will then put them in debt. If you want a credit card or a loan you have to have debts in order to prove that you have previously paid owed money back.
What about the young girls in our society who have the mentality that having kids young is easy way to money. Well, I have to say that they aren't wrong - you do get a lot of money of you're under 16 or even under 18 - you get loads of benefits. Morally its very wrong - but the government are encouraging this kind of behaviour.
Anyway, I think thats enough ranting and raving from me!
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